My last photo being pregnant with Wesley.
Getting ready this morning I cried in the shower thinking this could be the last time I’m ever pregnant. That my body may never grow another baby and feel those amazing kicks and movements. We have two frozen embryos left but we have had a number of failed transfers so I don’t get my hopes up that they will take. I hope we are able to have more children because I want Wesley to get to be a sibling but we don’t know what the future holds.
We came into the new Patewood birth center at 8 to begin the induction process. The new labor and delivery center at Patewood really is beautiful. The rooms are huge, the one I was in even had a birthing tub in it. First thing was starting the IV. I warned the nurses that I am not an easy stick. After two nurses and two tries they called the nurse anesthetist to come do it and he got it in. The second attempt hit a nerve in my wrist and it felt like I had been struck my lightning. The nurses started Pitocin to start the labor process and gradually it was increased from 8am-12:30pm.
Around 1:30pm our doctor, Dr. Shoultz came in and broke my water. After that contractions increased and the anesthesiologist came to do my epidural. Will had been trying to get me to get the epidural earlier but I remembered how painful it was from last time and wanted to wait a while before getting it. The problem was that after I got my epidural I noticed that where my left leg met my body in front was not numb, at all. I was able to fully feel every contraction on that side. They came in and gave me another shot of pain meds in my IV which did nothing. I had also warned them that I get sick from pain meds/anesthetic so they gave me some anti nausea medication in my IV to help.
Because he still wasn’t low enough, they had me put the giant peanut pillow ball thing between my knees to open things up. This meant I really couldn’t change positions to try and deal with the pain of contractions and still had a giant spot that wasn’t getting any pain relief. I was that lady in labor moaning in pain and gripping the bed rail. They tried one last pain shot and it had me dry heaving. After that they determined Wesley was sitting on a nerve and that’s why the epidural wasn’t reaching that one area.
Around 7pm Wesley was a bit lower so they decided to see how some pushing would go because I was having more pressure and was fully dilated. Pushing was just enough to move him to where the pain lessened which was great. For the next little bit I pushed but then I started to throw up from the pain meds. Throwing up while in labor is not fun and it put pushing on hold
I got some peppermint gum to chew on which really helped me stop throwing up. Then we were able to make more progress. They had turned my pitocin down some so my contractions started to space out too much so they turned it back up to get things going again. Dr. Shoultz came in and it was delivery time.
Dr. Shoultz delivered Tucker for us last time so it was nice to have someone who knew us and what we have been through delivering Wesley. We also ended up with three nurses from last time that we recognized and who remembered us as well. I was the only one in active labor at the time so we had all the nurses in with us. I told them I had brought my camera with me and that we would love pictures if anyone would take them so one of the nurses took pictures the whole time which was amazing! I had to use oxygen between contractions for both of our heart rates and Dr. Shoultz told us if Wesley didn’t want to come out on his own he would have to help with forceps but we most likely wouldn’t need to do that.
After pushing for over two hours I was told to stop and push very gently. Wesley was born at 10:25pm on 10/25/17. He was 7lbs 7oz and 20 1/4 inches long. He was beautiful and crying and we were instantly in love. He was placed on my chest immediately after birth and Will was able to cut the cord. He started reaching up and was holding onto my face while we experiencing skin to skin. This was the delivery we wanted and dreamed of.
Our last pregnancy we had two still births and a preemie who was rushed to the NICU almost the moment he was born. We didn’t get to smile and ooo and ahh over them, we didn’t get to hold them and comfort their cries. This time, was totally different, Wesley was immediately placed on my chest where he stayed for the next hour. I got to comfort my son as he cried from being born, and feel his skin against mine. This is referred to as the magical hour for a reason, it truly is magical. This is one of those moments in life you just don’t forget.
He is the answer to so many prayers and we can’t thank those of you who have been on this journey with us enough. Our friends and family who have been so supportive the last 5 years and our amazing medical team, Dr. Miller and his team with Fertility Center of the Carolinas, you always listened to us and eased our minds and you never gave up on us, you are like family.
The high risk doctors and sonographers at GHS Maternal Fetal Medicine for taking time to explain things to us and talk us through everything with both pregnancies and give us lots of pictures of our little ones.
Dr. Shoultz, Dr. MacClenahan and the rest of the team at Piedmont OBGYN, although our deliveries last time were not exactly a happy time, you guys were there for us and made the best out of a terrible situation. This pregnancy you kept me from going crazy by being calm and supportive and you helped us have a “normal” pregnancy and delivery experience.