Delivery day

My last photo being pregnant with Wesley.

Getting ready this morning I cried in the shower thinking this could be the last time I’m ever pregnant. That my body may never grow another baby and feel those amazing kicks and movements. We have two frozen embryos left but we have had a number of failed transfers so I don’t get my hopes up that they will take. I hope we are able to have more children because I want Wesley to get to be a sibling but we don’t know what the future holds.

We came into the new Patewood birth center at 8 to begin the induction process. The new labor and delivery center at Patewood really is beautiful. The rooms are huge, the one I was in even had a birthing tub in it. First thing was starting the IV. I warned the nurses that I am not an easy stick. After two nurses and two tries they called the nurse anesthetist to come do it and he got it in. The second attempt hit a nerve in my wrist and it felt like I had been struck my lightning. The nurses started Pitocin to start the labor process and gradually it was increased from 8am-12:30pm.

Around 1:30pm our doctor, Dr. Shoultz came in and broke my water. After that contractions increased and the anesthesiologist came to do my epidural. Will had been trying to get me to get the epidural earlier but I remembered how painful it was from last time and wanted to wait a while before getting it. The problem was that after I got my epidural I noticed that where my left leg met my body in front was not numb, at all. I was able to fully feel every contraction on that side. They came in and gave me another shot of pain meds in my IV which did nothing. I had also warned them that I get sick from pain meds/anesthetic so they gave me some anti nausea medication in my IV to help.

Because he still wasn’t low enough, they had me put the giant peanut pillow ball thing between my knees to open things up. This meant I really couldn’t change positions to try and deal with the pain of contractions and still had a giant spot that wasn’t getting any pain relief. I was that lady in labor moaning in pain and gripping the bed rail. They tried one last pain shot and it had me dry heaving. After that they determined Wesley was sitting on a nerve and that’s why the epidural wasn’t reaching that one area.

Around 7pm Wesley was a bit lower so they decided to see how some pushing would go because I was having more pressure and was fully dilated. Pushing was just enough to move him to where the pain lessened which was great. For the next little bit I pushed but then I started to throw up from the pain meds. Throwing up while in labor is not fun and it put pushing on hold

I got some peppermint gum to chew on which really helped me stop throwing up. Then we were able to make more progress. They had turned my pitocin down some so my contractions started to space out too much so they turned it back up to get things going again. Dr. Shoultz came in and it was delivery time.

Dr. Shoultz delivered Tucker for us last time so it was nice to have someone who knew us and what we have been through delivering Wesley. We also ended up with three nurses  from last time that we recognized and who remembered us as well. I was the only one in active labor at the time so we had all the nurses in with us. I told them I had brought my camera with me and that we would love pictures if anyone would take them so one of the nurses took pictures the whole time which was amazing! I had to use oxygen between contractions for both of our heart rates and Dr. Shoultz told us if Wesley didn’t want to come out on his own he would have to help with forceps but we most likely wouldn’t need to do that.

After pushing for over two hours I was told to stop and push very gently. Wesley was born at 10:25pm on 10/25/17. He was 7lbs 7oz and 20 1/4 inches long. He was beautiful and crying and we were instantly in love. He was placed on my chest immediately after birth and Will was able to cut the cord. He started reaching up and was holding onto my face while we experiencing skin to skin. This was the delivery we wanted and dreamed of.

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Our last pregnancy we had two still births and a preemie who was rushed to the NICU almost the moment he was born. We didn’t get to smile and ooo and ahh over them, we didn’t get to hold them and comfort their cries. This time, was totally different, Wesley was immediately placed on my chest where he stayed for the next hour. I got to comfort my son as he cried from being born, and feel his skin against mine. This is referred to as the magical hour for a reason, it truly is magical. This is one of those moments in life you just don’t forget.

He is the answer to so many prayers and we can’t thank those of you who have been on this journey with us enough. Our friends and family who have been so supportive the last 5 years and our amazing medical team, Dr. Miller and his team with Fertility Center of the Carolinas, you always listened to us and eased our minds and you never gave up on us, you are like family.

The high risk doctors and sonographers at GHS Maternal Fetal Medicine for taking time to explain things to us and talk us through everything with both pregnancies and give us lots of pictures of our little ones.

Dr. Shoultz, Dr. MacClenahan and the rest of the team at Piedmont OBGYN, although our deliveries last time were not exactly a happy time, you guys were there for us and made the best out of a terrible situation. This pregnancy you kept me from going crazy by being calm and supportive and you helped us have a “normal” pregnancy and delivery experience.

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40 Weeks

We have started weekly appointments at the doctors office. These are super short and they basically just measure my belly, do his heart rate and check to make sure I don’t have any protein in my urine. Now we are just sitting and waiting and boy are we ready!! I am much more impatient than Will is and I clearly I am the only physically carrying around the extra weight of a baby and having numb fingers and fat feet so its not a surprise. There really hasn’t been anything big going on the last couple weeks other than just trying to relax and wait for him to get here!

At 39 weeks on the dot I had very strong contractions for over an hour but they were oddly spaced and different lengths of time but they died out and went away over night so we didn’t go to the hospital today 10/18 I have my 39 week appointment to see if anything is happening and how things are measuring. I also have some lovely sinus drainage which is making my throat hurt and I just want to eat some soup and drink some apple cider and lay around watching bad TV but I’m still working.



At my appointment there still wasn’t much going on. Still only 50% effaced and 1.5 dialated. I asked what the plan was if I haven’t had him by his due date and the nurse practitioner said that we would talk about scheduling an induction at my next appointment. They didn’t have anything for Tuesday so I am going back Monday. 

 Monday at my appointment I was between 3-4 dialated and was told I could go up to a week on my own to wait for labor or we could talk induction. We were ready!!! So we scheduled our induction for Wednesday 10/25. 

36 Week update

33 Weeks

So Will and I did some work on the nursery this weekend and got the curtain rod/curtains hung, the little shelves and decor above the crib hung. I still have to paint the new draw pulls for the dressers and get those put on and I have order the book shelves, and side table for his room. My dad is going to do a framed out pegboard for above the changing table so that I can put some baskets on it to have diaper and wipes and other things accessible and out of the way at the same time. Will also worked on painting the window trim in the kitchen and living room so that it will all be ready for the shower in a couple weeks.



34 Weeks

So this week started off with two days off school and no power! Hurricane Irma gave us some rain and a lot of wind in the upstate and while the rest of the neighborhood kept power our street and 1 or 2 others lost power for a while. Compared to what some people lost from the hurricane it wasn’t much but I had spent the entire first weekend of September shopping for groceries and making freezer meals for after Wesley arrives so we don’t have to worry about shopping and cooking then. Everything in our refrigerator had to be thrown out as it was all room temp for hours but we were able to save our freezer items luckily. We were informed by the neighbors that our street loses power a few times a year and so Will decided it was better just to be prepared and have a generator so that with a baby in the house and a freezer/fridge full of food we didn’t have to worry about throwing everything out every time we lose power. I will say that trying to sleep without power at anytime is rough because I am hot natured and run the ceiling fan as well as an oscillating fan next to the bed but sleeping while pregnant and without power SUCKS! The fan also provides some white noise so we don’t hear every single sound throughout the night like the dog dreaming or rolling over and I did not sleep well without it.

Tuesday while we were without power our washer and dryer also arrived which made installation a little challenging since we couldn’t exactly turn the lights on. But luckily our power came on about 2 hours later and we were able to get them running and I love them! I did what would have been three loads of laundry in the old washer in one load! I do have an issue reaching the bottom of the washer and will most likely have to get a small step stool to use but they are great.

The fence company also called to say they would be starting our fence on Wednesday and of course we lost power in the afternoon again which caused them to lose a little time working. The fence so far looks great and I can’t wait for it to be finished and not have to walk around with the dogs for them to go potty but just be able to open the back door especially when baby is here and the weather isn’t great. Even with the short work week it has felt long! It was great getting to wear jeans this week to help support spirit week over at the high school though. We also took our Maternity photos today with Lauren Miller Photography! She just makes the whole process so painless and not awkward at all.

This weekend my dad came up to help Will paint. It is not Will’s favoreite thing to do but now that it’s mostly done it looks great! Will also white washed the fireplace which looks so much better than it did before. 

Living room before livingroom

Living room after grass cloth wallpaper removal, chair rail removal, paint on walls and trim and whitewash on fireplace.


We still have some things to eventually do to this room like switch out the ceiling fan so its not this version of stained glass and hang things on the walls. We also have to get slip covers for the chairs and ottoman.

35 Weeks

So yesterday we had our 35 week appointment with the high risk doctor to officially make the decision if I have to have a C-section or not. They also did a growth scan to measure Wesley and see what is size was since I was measuring ahead at my last regular appointment. The good news is Wesley is measuring great he is right on track and measuring in the 61st percentile. I also DO NOT have to have a C-section!!! I am very excited about this. The placenta has moved enough that now I can just have a regular birth. They did notice that my amniotic fluid level is on the high side of normal. Normally high fluid can be associated with gestational diabetes which I tested negative for. He said that some people can still kind of have a glucose intolerance and to not eat sugary stuff this week and we will recheck my fluid level next week and as long as it isn’t increasing we are fine. Wesley is head down which is good so now its just waiting until he is ready to make his appearance cause Will and I certainly are ready!

36 Weeks

So this week I had my regular OB appointment Tuesday and she said I was measuring right at 36 weeks not ahead and then Wednesday I had my mfm appointment to check my fluid level. She took a bunch of pictures for me and of course Wesley had his hands up by his face and wouldn’t move them but he had no problem showing off his little man bits again. I was a little worried when the tech was asking me if they had me checking my sugar levels and I said no I passed the GD test with flying colors. So the doctor came in and said there was no jump in my fluid and that I was officially being released by mfm! They estimated that he weighs about 6lbs 11oz right now. She said that he might decide to come earlier than my due date and that when my water breaks I will know it for sure because I will have some extra.

Now I just have my regular weekly appointments with my OB and Wesley can come on out whenever he is ready! Will just did my last weekly Mekena injection this morning so I am now done with those which is very nice. I don’t love starting my Thursdays off with a shot in the butt muscle that’s sore for a day or two after. This weekend my sisters-in law and two of my best friends are throwing me a baby shower and I am very excited. I wanted to wait as long as possible since last time we had a baby shower and then lost our boys so it just made me more comfortable to wait as long as we could before having one. We also got our maternity pictures back from Lauren! Here are some of my favorites.

The baby shower turned out great and I am so grateful for such wonderful friends and family that came to celebrate baby Wesley with us. The girls did such a great job with everything. The decorations were beautiful and mom even made this amazing wreath.

 Mimi was even able to come and it was so good getting to spend time with her. Dad also created this great pegboard for above the changing table to hold all the stuff for changing Wesley and for decoration. It turned out great! Now I just have to finish putting stuff on it. And we have to put the draw pulls on the dressers.  

Now I am just trying to patiently wait for Wesley to get here but I am ready!

What’s in a name?

A name is a big deal. Having taught high school for 7 years and started my third year as a school counselor I have heard a lot of names and they have not all been good. A lot of times in life your name is the first impression someone gets of you. When you go to the doctors office they will call that name out loud, teachers will be calling it for roll from preschool through college, it will be at the top of your resume and many other places. I remember hearing a news story once about the more unique a persons name, the more likely they were to go to prison! Really!?!? I also remember growing up with 4 Ashleys and 3 Megans in pretty much every class and how they all wanted something a little different for their name.

Listening to all the names read at graduation ceremonies over the years I have heard some very good names and some very bad names. I have butchered a lot of names over the years reading them off my roster while teaching and had kids tell me they go by something totally different than their given name because “no one can say it or spell it”.

When I was pregnant with our triplets we had the task of not just deciding on a name for one child but on names for three little boys. They needed to go together but not be too matchy. They ended up all getting a family name and a name that was just theirs. Somehow we found three names that all started with “T” that they would go by. Will would throw out names that I would say “OH NO…I taught a student with that name and I just can’t call my child that” or I would throw one out and it was someone he went to school with that he didn’t like or worked with etc. This time there is no T, there is no matching and it was much much harder to find another name that we liked since we had already used so many names last time.

I kept coming back to a name that I only knew one person from childhood with the name, never taught anyone with the name and just liked it and luckily when I told Will what it was he liked it too. So we had officially decided on a first name but middle name was back and forth. We had a non family name that I threw out and we both liked, but I realized that with men especially, it is a big deal to pass their name on and so I asked Will if he would want to use William as a middle name. Our son Tucker who is not with us, his first name was William. He was not going to go by it and a lot of people probably couldn’t tell you that was his first name. It took me some time to really be OK with using this name again because I didn’t want anyone to feel like we were taking away from him by using this name again or honoring him over his brothers by using it. Our son will know about his brothers, they aren’t going to be a secret.

So after many month of thinking over this decision we have finally made the decision that our son will be named Wesley William Swartz.

32 Week update

So I apologize for this post! Normally I start the post and update week by week as I go along and I didn’t this time so I feel like it’s kind of short and boring. 

Week 29

This week I went back to work. We don’t have students yet just working on making sure that students all have schedules and nothing has gotten messed up in the schedule. I am getting used to having a new commute and figuring out the best way to get to work from the new house. I went to switcharoos a huge consignment sale in Greenville and ended up not buying anything, the line was INSANE!!! 

Week 30


I am back at work and things have been super busy! Things are going well but man I miss sleeping in until 8. Waking up at 5:30 is a little rough. We had our appointment with the mfm doctor and my placenta has moved enough to be considered low lying VS previa now but not enough that they want me to do a regular delivery. Luckily he said instead of deciding now we will come back at 35 weeks for a final measurement and decision. Still hoping I do not have to have the C-section. 

Week 31


This was officially our first week back at work with students. I’m still feeling pretty good but was wiped out by the end of the day. The only shoes that I can wear comfortably right now are my rainbows. My other shoes are snug across the top of my feet first thing in the morning so I can only imagine what they would be like by 4pm. I took a deep breath at work and busted my shirt open yes I am serious! Luckily I wear tank tops under everything so no exposure happened. I just hate to spend money on maternity tops this late in the game. 

My adorable neice was born this week and so we were dog sitting two of my brothers dogs. They do not sleep!!! Will ended up sleeping in the guest room with their dogs so that I could get some sleep. Don’t let this innocent looking face fool you she is the devil at night. 

Week 32

Went for my check up with the doctor and I’m meauring 2 weeks ahead. That is just by measuring my belly not by meauring baby on an ultrasound. So we will see what things look like when we have our last ultrasound on 9/20. I am hoping at our appointment that everything has moved enough so that a c-section isn’t needed. 

I cried doing laundry

Sunday I washed my first load of baby clothes. I never made it to this point in my last pregnancy. At 23 weeks we went to the hospital pregnant with triplets and came home 11 days later with no children. There were clothes bought for our boys last time that never got washed or worn and at almost 29 weeks with our rainbow baby boy I washed a load of baby clothes. I cried over clothes that were intended for his brothers and I cried because we have made it to the point of actually getting the nursery ready and getting things organized and put away. There are clothing items I have three of because there were supposed to be three little boys wearing them that now only one will wear. 


I’m sure some people might think cutting the tags off items and washing them is no big deal, after over a year I couldn’t have returned them anyways, but it’s a huge deal. Clearly this pregnancy feels real I feel him moving and kicking and rolling all the time now but I felt a lot of movement last time and then it was gone in the blink of an eye before I could prepare their room or wash their clothes. But having made it this far we have actually painted his room and his dressers, I have bought decor for the wall and I have bought other baby items. Last pregnancy Will and I had each bought eachother onesies for Valentine’s Day but other than that we didn’t buy anything else. So the realness had gone up a couple notches. 

28 week update

25 weeks

img_2715For the end of week 24 beginning of week 25 we spent vacation down in Pawleys Island. It was nice to be able to sit on the beach and relax. The beach has always been one of my favorite most relaxing places. I honestly sat on the beach under the canopy all day reading which was great. Of course the front half of my body and the back half are two very different colors from not being able to lay on my stomach at all. I read the Girl in Cabin 10 which was good and started on Two days Gone. Summer is really the only time I have the time to read. This summer I have not read as much because I keep falling asleep early and not getting as many pages done per night. The hardest thing was trying not to gorge myself on seafood every night we were there. I LOVE seafood and just wanted shrimp and fish and scallops every night but I tried to pace myself especially with the girls coming to meet me for another couple of days after the family trip. My sister in law was nice enough to take some picture for me down on the beach during our trip as well. Beach baby '17

26 weeks

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For the end of week 25 beginning of week 26 I stayed down at the beach and my girlfriends came to meet up with me for our annual beach trip. Unfortunately Mother Nature was not very nice to us and we only had 2 days of sunshine. We managed to read our book club book in one afternoon/evening since it was ugly outside. Behind closed doors is a good read but it is dark. We met up with another friend of ours and went to dinner and a breakout room one night which was lots of fun. We had to try to find some preggo friendly activities since last year we went to play BINGO which was really fun and hilarious but all the old ladies in there were chain smokers so that was not an option this year. We ended up missing the record for the room by two minutes but we had fun!

I have been feeling lots of rolling movements and baby has officially found my lungs and likes to cramp them at times. Since I got home from the beach I have been around the new house trying to organize and doing lots of laundry.

27 weeks

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I have been feeling good still and not having any issues. It drive me crazy that I went from going to crossfit 4-5 times a week to not being allowed to do more than walk because of my placenta previa. Week 27 pretty much consisted of me trying to get some house projects started/done since I have still been feeling good. Since moving, we have rooms to paint and some wallpaper to remove so Will and I got started on the work. First Will got the nursery painted so I could then paint the dressers and start getting things washed and put away in preparation for baby Swartz to get here. The dining room is mauve and I didn’t like the color cut outs in the bottom so I did a first coat on everything below the chair rail white. It still needs another coat but my back needed a break from sitting on the floor all afternoon. 

And when you are 7 months pregnant and have been sitting on the floor painting for some time its just easier to lay down and take a break than it is to stand up and go sit on the couch knowing you will have to get back up.

The front room had this very lovely bag paint finish on the walls in two shades of green which was just as bad if not worse than the mauve in the dining room so while Will was at work I taped all of the trim except around the ceiling. Will then came home and taped the ceiling and put on the first coat of paint and then did the second coat of paint the following evening. I give the man credit, he went to work all day and then went to crossfit and then came home and painted two nights in a row which makes for a long tiring day.


My husbands dressers from when he was a child are good solid wood dressers but just needed a little work so last year when we were expecting my dad had removed the pulls and sanded them both down so we could paint them and they then sat in that state until this week when I finally chalk painted them both grey. The paint didn’t turn out as dark as I wanted but they still look good. I still have to wax them both now that all of the paint has dried on the dressers and their drawers.

Our back hallway needed some kind of organization with dog leashes and umbrellas etc. so I went over to Hobby Lobby and found this cute little shelf/bin/hook combo that was 50% off to put in the back hall to keep things organized and off the floor. It’s so nice not having all of the dog leashes looped over the bathroom door now.

And what seems like the never ended project is the family room. 33 year old grass cloth wallpaper does not like to come off the wall. And while Will was trying to remove wallpaper I of course had to suggest taking off the chair rail as well. The kitchen and family room are the only two rooms in the house with brown trim which will all get painted white but I figured it would be easier to not have to paint chair rail and not have to tape it off to paint above and below it. So really I was trying to save us work in the long run. The grass cloth itself is now off the wall but Will is still working on steaming off all of the paper backing and the walls will then have to be sanding, skim coated, and primed before painting. I am also planning to white wash our fireplace. The room is just very dark and needs some lighting up so we will do a light wall color along with the white trim and white washed fire place.

28 weeks

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Hello THIRD Trimester!! It feels great to have made it this far since last time we didn’t make it past 23/24 weeks. Baby loves being difficult every time we have an ultrasound or they try to use the heart Doppler on him. He hides behind my belly button to make it hard for them to see what they need to. Today I got to drink the lovely glucose drink. Don’t let it fool you it says fruit punch but it tasted like Robitusson to me. I got it down OK and was fine until the last 5 minutes before my blood draw and started feeling a little sick but hopefully I passed!! Fingers crossed I find out Friday, just don’t want to suffer through the 3 hour test.

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The doctor said that I am measuring right on for 28 weeks and that everything looked and sounded good. I had to get the Rhogam shot since I am a negative blood type. In two weeks I go back to MFM for an ultrasound to see if my placenta has moved away from my cervix. I would prefer not to have to do a C-section so say some prayers that it will move by then. At that appointment I also get to get the T-dap shot. Next week I go back to work. I feel like summer just started and now its over already. I am just so ready for this sweet baby boy to be here but I am trying to be patient. I just wish I could be one of those moms who could just be relaxed and enjoy pregnancy and never worry about something bad happening. I am so envious of those people. Where as I worry all the time about if he is kicking and moving enough, how long was I asleep on my back before I woke up, if I ate something I shouldn’t have or if stuff will just fall apart for no reason like last time. I know that worry doesn’t stop once you have a baby that it just changes to worrying about other things but it would be nice not to worry during pregnancy.

24 week update

At 19w6d I felt baby boy kick from the outside for the first time. Since then I have been trying to get Will to feel him when he starts kicking and moving a bunch and as soon as Will puts his hand on my belly he stops moving around.

20 Weeks June 6-12

The baby shower my mom and I hosted for my sister in law went really well. It was also a good reminder of things I need to register for. When I went to buy her gift I found a rocker I really liked for the nursery and found the stroller to go with our car seat in the clearance section because it had a tiny hole in the basket underneath. I was able to get it for $150 off and get the chair 10% off for being the floor display and had a coupon for 20% off on top of that. And I was able to use store credit from last year to buy both items at no cost. Since there were certain items we knew we couldn’t use because we wouldn’t have triplets again we returned those items for store credit to use towards future baby items.

21 Weeks June 13-19

Will’s surgery went well on the 15th. The doctors and nurses kept saying “are you sure you just had surgery” when he was in recovery because he was up and walking around like normal. He even ate two chick fil a sandwiches on the way home because he was so hungry. The same day the roofers came and started to put our new roof on. They didn’t finish the first day so they had to come back on Friday when we were also having the storage units delivered to store our stuff in.

It took about four hours to get all of our furniture and other belongings loaded into the units Saturday morning with the help of our dads, my brother and a guy who works for Will. I did pretty well emotionally until the end when I started thinking about the fact that this had been our first house together and where we were supposed to bring our triplets home to. As excited as I am to move into our new house I am still a little sad to leave our little town of TR and our first home together. 

Now that we are fully out of the old house we are officially homeless until we close on our new house on the 29th and get all of our stuff delivered on the 30th. Until then Will is staying at his parents house since he has to work and I am at my parents in Myrtle Beach with the dogs relaxing until until I have to work on the 27th. To start my dads birthday off he got to give me my shot since Will isn’t here. 7 shots down 14 to go!

22 Weeks June 20-26

While staying at my parents house my mom got to feel baby boy kick at 22 weeks. My mom and I spent some time relaxing at the pool and did a little shopping as well. Last time I was pregnant I didn’t buy anything. I think I was just so nervous that it would jinx things if I did and something bad would happen. We had one shower in Myrtle Beach and I can’t tell you the guilt I felt having been given all those things for our boys and then losing them just a few weeks later. This time I have bought things. As I said I bought the stroller on clearance and a rocker for the nursery. Mom and I also went to the Carters outlet, Target, and once upon a child. I found some super cute little bathing suits for next summer some onesies in different sizes and some little sleepers.

23 Weeks June 27-July 3


This week has been really stressful for me. Week 23 was when everything went wrong last pregnancy. I feel like I have been super worried about everything from having to pee a lot or feeling tired, or my belly feeling heavy by the end of the day. I know that I couldn’t have done anything to prevent what happened last time but I still feel like I should have known something was wrong before we went to the hospital that night. Will and I are staying at my brother and sister in laws house this week waiting for our closing on Thursday. Monday night I could not get comfortable and slept terribly which of course stressed me out. Baby boy was being super active at 3am and 5am so I put Will’s hand on my belly at 5 and he got to feel a bunch of strong kicks in a row. Little boy was extremely active while I was at work all day the 27th as well. We have our final walk through on our new house this afternoon the 28th and tomorrow is closing day! I have never bought a house before and I am excited but still get nervous doing all of this. Buying a house is a stressful process. There is soooooo much paperwork that you have to fill out and submit etc.

We bought a house!!! And moved in!!! Friday our containers were delivered to the new house and we hired two movers from Tiger moving (they did a great job) to carry everything in for us. My mom and grandma were here Friday helping clean things and unpacking since I was going to be home alone while Will was at work but because of all the rain, yes our poor movers carried everything in in the rain, Will ended up home for a chunk of the day as well.

For the first time we have a king sized bed! Both of us, my snoogle pregnancy pillow and two dogs slept in it and I didn’t even know they were sleeping with us until I woke up. We love our new house and just have some painting we want to do over the next couple of months. We went from a 2 bed 1 bath to a 4 bed 2.5 bath. It is so nice to have room for guest and baby as well. We have met some our neighbors and our neighbors on each side of our house are really nice and brought us the sweetest little welcome gifts.

I was going through my phone deleting old text messages the other day and ran across a message from the chaplain at the hospital that was there for us last year through everything and I sent her a message to tell her we were expecting. I felt like she knew everything bad that happened to us and at some point had probably wondered what happened to us so I thought she would like to know that right now we have something good happening.

24 weeks July 4-10


I am feeling much better now that we have hit the 24 week mark. We had our heart echo done today and the heart looks good, growth measurements look good, and baby was being a little stinker and hiding behind my belly button and moving around during the ultrasound. Unfortunately my placenta has not moved away from my cervix so I will go back in six weeks at the 30 week mark to recheck it and see if it has moved. If it doesn’t we will have a C section at 37 weeks. Of course I also got mail from my insurance saying they would not pay for my most recent 2 ultrasounds because per pregnancy they only pay for 2. I called and they said I would have to have my medical records submitted to explain why I was receiving more ultrasounds than my insurance allows to get them paid for. I said how about you look at the claims you already have from last year of a preterm labor/lost pregnancy that pretty much explains it. She said sorry we can’t do that we need your current medical records. So I had to go back to my doctors office today to fill out a release of records form for them to send my record to insurance so that they would pay for my ultrasounds.

20 week update

So everything has been going well the last few weeks.  I started to feel baby boy kick at 17 weeks. It is such a great feeling. He moves around so much sometimes he makes me nauseous.

At 18 weeks I went to Washington DC with our 8th grade students on their field trip. We walked a good amount and I couldn’t help but laugh that I was out walking a bunch of 8th graders. One told me I was the most fit pregnant lady she had ever seen, I am 100% not the most fit pregnant person ever but I took it as a compliment. I may have pulled the pregnancy card at our bathroom stop on the way home and cut the entire line to go to the bathroom because I was not going to make it with an entire bus load of girls ahead of me. There were a few giggles as I went running past them apologizing.

We are currently in the process of selling our house and buying a new one so our house is half in boxes right now since we have to get everything moved into units, like pods but cheaper, next weekend. Will did some packing while I was out of town for a baby shower last weekend.

The 3 of us have been friends since seventh grade and now we are all three pregnant at the same time. Due in July, October and December. While I was home at my parents for the shower I used my home Doppler to let my 90 year old Mimi hear the babies heartbeat. Her face light up and she was in tears.

My mom and I are throwing a baby shower for my sister in law this weekend so I had to leave serving pieces unpacked until after we have it. My parents will be staying at our house in the chaos of packing to move as well. Now that we have reached 20 weeks we had our anatomy scan this week!

Our anatomy scan went well. Little boy was moving and kicking but she was able to get the measurements she needed. My cervix is looking better now than last time length wise but the doctor did note that I have a low lying placenta or minor placenta previa. Placenta previa is when your placenta is close to, partially covering or fully covering your cervix. She said no strenuous activity, no heavy lifting and we will recheck it in 4 weeks when we have our heart echo. Now the more serious version of this can cause bed rest and serious bleeding as well as requiring a scheduled c-section. The hope is that since mine is more minor that as baby grows and stretches my uterus that it will move the placenta away from my cervix and we will not have to worry about bleeding or a c-section. Baby Swartz also had no problem showing off his boy parts for us.



We will be between houses for about a week with our move and had some work done to our house for the sale as well. Now that I am off work I have been trying to pack some each day so that we are ready for next weekend. There is so much going on it’s crazy. Will is having surgery on the 15th and they are delivering our units to load the next day as well as installing the new roof on our house. I am so grateful my dad is coming up and my brother and Will’s dad are also coming to help load items since Will won’t be able to help a day after surgery and I can’t lift heavy things being pregnant and with our new placenta previa diagnosis. If anyone wants to come help us move we will gladly accept the help!

Mother’s Day ’17

 I was blessed with an amazing mom who is always there for me when I need her. She has come to help care for me after surgery and when I was in the hospital last year. I talk to her almost daily because she is one of my best friends. Mom I appreciate you and love you! 

Mother’s Day has been rough for me the last 4 years. For three years I wanted so badly to be a mother, to be pregnant or already have children and nothing was happening. Last years Mother’s Day was even worse. We had lost our boys a little over a month before. I was officially a mom but I had none of my children here with me. I tried to just stay off social media and do other things to entertain myself. It was hard seeing everyone’s sweet post showing their kids or what their kids had made them or their activities of the day to celebrate Mother’s Day. I, on the other hand, was mourning the loss of my children. 

I would always cringe when well meaning people would ask “how are you celebrating Mother’s Day”. Even this year going through a drive thru the lady asked ” big Mother’s Day plan? Are you a mom?” I said I am, I am actually pregnant. 

Now that I am pregnant I have been getting asked a lot if this is my first. I try not to totally depress people with my response but I do acknowledge that this is not my first pregnancy or baby. I say “well technically no, we lost a triplet pregnancy last year around 23/24 weeks.”

This Mother’s Day has been very different. Not that we went out and had a weekend filled with activities but we got up today and we listened to our baby boys heart beat on my home Doppler and Will got me flowers and a card. 

To all the women out there, some of you I am aware of your struggles, I hope that today is what you need it to be. If you need to ignore it, mourn it or just acknowledge it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to reach out, I know how hard this day can be. Those of you that have suffered loss, you are a mom and you always will be.